Tariq Khamisa wrote down their philosophy of life

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2015 Asian Pacific American Traditions Month Local Hero Azim Khamisa

Six weeks before Tariq Khamisa's 21st birthday,air max, on the cold Saturday night within January 1995, the North park State University sophomore had been gunned down while providing pizza. It was part of the gang initiation, called "Jacking the Pizza Man, inch and Tony Hicks, one being initiated, fired the particular fatal bullet. He had been 14 years old.

For Azim Khamisa, a 2015 Hard anodized cookware Pacific Heritage Month Nearby Hero born in Kenya,billig nike free, that night in 1995 became the end of existence as he knew it.

“It’s very complicated to lose children, and the worst possible headache for a parent, ” states Khamisa. “I had simply returned from Mexico that will day. As an international expense banker, I traveled the entire world. That night some close friends of mine picked myself up at the airport and went to a party. I had simply no clue that my child had already been shot plus killed. The next morning, just a little card left on the entry way said that Homicide was wanting to reach Tariq’s family. I actually called. The first thing I thought when i was told about the son was they produced a mistake. Parents don’t move there. ”

Khamisa after that phoned his son’s residence.

“It was early Weekend morning, so I thought he’ll pick up the phone, ” clarifies Khamisa. “Of course this individual didn’t. His fiancé, Jennifer,Moncler Jacke Kaufen, did. She was crying and couldn’t say anything at all, and then it hit. I had been in my kitchen and I keep in mind losing all strength both in of my legs. I actually fell to the floor plus hit my head against the fridge. It's hard for me to explain how excruciatingly painful that have was. Like a nuclear explosive device had gone off in my center, and I had my initial out of body experience. Heard that from victims which are severely traumatized, that they have an out-of-body experience. ”

In that moment, Khamisa's belief helped him to pull strength.

“I left my figure because I couldn’t endure the pain,Nike Free Run, ” he says. “As a Sufi Muslim, the particular metaphysical arm of Islam,Moncler Outlet, I believe in God. And so i went into the embrace associated with God for what appeared like a long time, but was actually regarding 15 minutes, and when the exploding market subsided,nike free damen, he sent myself back into my body with the intelligence that there are victims at each ends of the gun. This didn’t come from my intelligence or my feelings associated with hurt. It came from an increased power. ”

This thought gelled for Khamisa, throughout a trip to Mammoth, California, which usually soon led him in order to forgiveness and founding the particular Tariq Khamisa Foundation.

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2 yrs before his passing, Tariq Khamisa wrote down their philosophy of life, plus gave it to their father. It now weighs in Azim Khamisa's house.

“In my religion, we now have a 40-day grieving time period, ” he explains. “The spirit of the person who passed away stays with you and you are supposed to grieve. But in 04 I went to Mammoth as well as a vision came to me. I used to be taught that when you do great compassionate deeds in the name of the particular departed, you create religious currency, which helps all of them in the next world. I sensed that if I created a base, I could do compassionate actions for Tariq, so that can finish his journey within the next world in a rocket. It is a win for your pet and it’s a earn for me, for I’d dropped all purpose. I could not even get out of bed, and had been suicidal at one stage, but once I made a decision to do this, that energy returned. ”

In October of the same year, he created the Tariq Khamisa Base, where he educates youth for the values that promote non-violence. When Khamisa speaks in order to students,Ugg Boots Günstig, often at their side is Tony Hicks’ grandfather, Ples Felix Junior. For Khamisa, reaching out to Felix has been part of the process.

“I told him that we each lost a son, ” he states. “My boy died. He lost their grandson to the criminal proper rights system, the first 14-year-old within California to be tried being an adult. I can’t provide my son back from your dead and there’s absolutely nothing he can do to get Tony a2z out of prison. So the something he and I could perform is to make sure no other youthful person in our community winds up dead or in jail. Ples was very quick to consider my hand of forgiveness. We have been together for two decades, and he’s very included. We speak at institutions all the time, and he’s since passionate about it as I feel. Our school assemblies are extremely powerful. ”

The particular mission of the foundation would be to stop kids from eliminating kids by breaking the period of youth violence,louboutin pumps.

“We essentially have 3 mandates, ” explains Khamisa. “The first is to conserve lives of children. When a kid dies in any community, we have been diminished. The second is to encourage the right choices so children don’t end up in gangs along with drugs and alcohol, and all sorts of the stuff that goes on. Our own third goal is to train the principles of non-violence—of empathy, of compassion plus forgiveness—because violence is a discovered behavior. No child comes into the world violent. If you accept that will as a truism then nonviolence can also be a learned conduct. You have to teach it since kids are not going to learn by means of osmosis. ”

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"I felt that when I created a foundation,air max 90, I really could do compassionate deeds regarding Tariq, so that he could complete his journey in the next planet in a rocket. " -- Azim Khamisa

Khamisa failed to meet Hicks until he or she was 19, and now these people write to each other regularly. Nowadays,Billig Ugg Boots, 20 years have passed plus Hicks is 34 plus working on his associate level in child psychology. Khamisa has already promised him employment with the foundation once they are paroled, in approximately 3 years.

Khamisa's daughter,nike free schweiz, Tasreen, became the executive movie director of the foundation three years right after its founding. These days, Khamisa serves as a consultant plus travels around the world making delivering presentations. He still works within finance, but that has used a back seat in order to speaking at schools plus prisons, and to writing 4 books on the topic associated with forgiveness, finding fulfillment plus peace.

“It’s easy to understand my son as a sufferer, but a little harder to find out Tony as one,air max norge, " he or she admits. "But Tony has been 14 when he produced the choice that took just one second, and now he's nevertheless in prison. So I physique, who is the enemy? Could it be the 14-year-old who murdered my son, or could it be societal forces that basically force many young–especially minority–kids, to fall through the breaks? ”

Khamisa believes the task he is doing helps keep your pet connected to his son,nike air force 1.

“I think my son is definitely helping, " he information. "I connect with him via my meditation. If I am home alone I place his photo on the table plus talk to him. I feel your pet spiritually and I believe he is helping from the other part. So it gets me upward in the morning because I feel in this way, I’m creating high octane fuel for him within the next world, and he is rising. ”

When reflecting within the impact he’s had via his presentations on behalf of the particular Tariq Khamisa Foundation, Khamisa feels he's exactly where this individual needs to be.

"I chose to reduce 20 years ago,Billig Air Max, and it has delivered me to peace, inch acknowledges Khamisa, who is at this point a grandfather to their daughter’s three children. "I know it was the right option. I gave 107 delivering presentations last year,nike jordan, and was on the highway 177 days. I no longer plan to slow down, and will remain involved with the foundation for the rest of the life–until I’m not able to get it done. "

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